Dutch and marrying in Luxembourg

Hi all,

Looking for some advice from fellow Dutchies living in Luxembourg. I want to get married to my long term partner and I cannot get over the bureaucracy of the Dutch paperwork requirements. I’m desperate and confused at this point.

Ive lived for short stints in various (EU) countries and the latest requirement is I need to get documentation for each period that I didn’t get married there. Aside from Netherlands and Luxembourg. Because apparently Foreign Affairs offices don’t talk or something. We’re talking 8 or more years back, and two separate countries of which one with a highly complex political system (NI, it’s Northern Ireland/UK) and two distinct locations.

I don’t even know where to begin. I’ve been given wrong and confusing information by official sources and offices. I’ve paid for documents I don’t need.

For the love of Luxembourg and The Netherlands, can anyone advise if there’s another route than going through the Dutch embassy hoops? Is there a way to resolve this whole thing in the Netherlands itself without having to chase paperwork through a variety of countries?

Would hugely appreciate hearing some other peoples experiences. This can’t be the way. And if it is I will take it upon myself to fight for improvements lol.