Missed Miscarriage - Confirmed today

Hello all,

I’m 38 and am/was(?) pregnant with my first baby – I had had a mirena coil in for years prior to us trying, and didn’t even have my first period before we got a positive test.

As a result I had two previous dating scans at roughly 4 and then 5wks, and we went in for a third scan last Wednesday which should have shown the pregnancy to be 7+ wks.

Unfortunately the embryo was showing at 6wks with no heartbeat, so we were told it was a high likelihood that it has stopped growing and it was a missed miscarriage. They booked us in today to go back to scan and confirm.

I think if we hadn’t had the two previous scans I could have held out hope that the dates were just a bit mixed up – but I felt very sure that it was over today - and of course, since I’m posting here, it was.

I’ve opted for the medical management option as my body seems to not be keen on letting it go - which I’m dreading but also I just want it over now so we can try again.

I’ve heard and read lots about it being such an overwhelmingly high likelihood of it being a chromosomal abnormality that’s nothing to do with me or my partner - and that so many go on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards. I can know this in my mind, but oh man, feeling it in my heart is taking a hot second.

I suppose even at such an early stage, my partner and I were so excited about the pregnancy and were getting into the planning. I’m already thinking about the anxiety that I’m going to be dealing with if we’re lucky enough to get pregnant again.