My boyfriend of 3 years is frustrating me everyday. What should my next step be?

Hi, me F/24 and my bf M/24 have been in a drawn out “rough spot” for about a year and half now. We constantly argue about little things to the point where I get so upset I start yelling and calling him names. I hate doing this, and I regret it every time because I care about him, but it seriously seems like that is the only way to get him to hear me if I say anything. I try my best to be nice and loving to him whenever we speak but every single time he finds a way to turn the situation around and blame me for everything. For example, I started to talk on how I’ve been feeling lately about the relationship, and how awful my mental health has been recently. I told him I feel like he doesn’t truly care about me because I never receive “just cause” things, or he never shows up for me emotionally unless I show him how like I would to a child. He said “How can you even think that? If I didn’t care about you I wouldn’t be here. I love you and I wish you saw that.” That was the entire conversation then he asked why I never talk to him anymore. It just seems like he sees the world through his eyes only and he absolutely cannot put himself in anyone’s shoes. He cries and tells me I’m being dramatic when I tell him something I don’t like him doing toward me and he always does it anyway. It’s always about him and what he wants when we talk.

I’ve gotten to the point now where I don’t really care about his feelings and I never tell him anything going on in my life. I’ve had to block him sometimes because he calls so much when I tell him I need space. We don’t live together and he doesn’t have a car right now so he wants me to come pick him up all the time to hang out, or he always wants to talk on the phone and it’s so exhausting and honestly embarrassing. He always says that he wants things to get better and that he wants to fix us, or fix him, or he wants me to “let him” fix things when I get mad because he didn’t listen the first time I told him something. Nothing ever happens though. I’m just beyond confused, hurt, and frustrated I let myself get to this point in the relationship but I don’t want to have to start over with someone else. I’m just tired of being the “man” in this situation. I have so much going on in my life and I can’t even talk to him about it because I know he won’t show me he cares or he will just give me passive aggressive solutions instead of comfort. I’m not great at relationships but can this one be saved? What should I do?

tl;dr My boyfriend is frustrating me with his lack of emotional support and the fact he never seems to care when I say something he needs to listen to. Never lets me have space and I get upset to the point he cries when I yell at him. Can the relationship be saved?