It is infuriating to have abusive behavior dismissed because "family is important"

In my experience, when I have had a manipulative and abusive romantic partner, family has been the first to say to drop them and leave. Same thing with manipulative, harmful, abusive friends.

But family gets this exemption in some peoples eyes and it is honestly starting to enrage me.

I don't feel like just letting it all go and spending time around them beyond the holidays or very specific occasions. My mom and dad have shown me a pattern my entire life of manipulative, narcissistic, abusive behavior and they have not once taken true accountability for any of it.

It is always that I am "only focusing on the bad. Why can't you focus on the good?" It is that I am "being oversensitive," "being too reactive to jokes or an opinion," and they say, "we are entitled to have and say our thoughts about whatever and it should not affect you." Well, they are not going to be able to avoid the consequences of actions, the same way they can't in friendships.

Screw giving endless special exemptions for family mistreatment and abuse. It is so messed up.