35 [M4F] sub without a dom, lost puppy looking for a home

I have too much freedom right now and it doesn’t sit right. I’m the type who feels better when someone else decides how much I get, what I’m allowed to want, and whether I’ve earned any of it. Giving up control and being degraded for needing it in the first place is what actually settles me. Soft or firm, as long as it’s clear I don’t deserve to be running the show.

Looking for someone who likes the idea of a lost puppy that needs to be reminded of his place. No pressure, just the slow process of taking the freedom away and watching me adjust to it.

Women around their 30s-ish are my preference, though I’m flexible if the vibe really matches. If we’ve chatted spicy topics before, feel free to reach out again.

Tell me your ASL in your first message so I know you read this.

Kinks: giving away control, degradation, humiliation, cuckold, simping, worshipping, praising, denial, ruined orgasms, and general soft/hard domming stuff.

Limits: scat, hard pain and blood, anything illegal.

Would you start soft and tighten the leash over time, or make it clear from the first message that the freedom is already gone?