Married Bi-sub (sissy-kinkster) looking for fellow cucks who are into the same kink.

So, the heading is pretty much what I am looking for , to add more context I can briefly explain more..

My wife is a shy conservative tamil ponnu but she is open minded, I have told her my kinks on how i like to wear her lingeries, be submissive to her ex or a guy in her office who often texts her on irrelevant things. She clearly understands the cuck dynamics but cannot comprehend the sissy part -- How can i convey this more effectively without making her hate this ?

My dream fantasy would be to travel with her bf, book a resort (in the reception they would register themselves as married and I am her bf's friend or driver), there would be humiliation routines set by her bf where i would make myself show to the room boys in bra and panties or something similar to convey the message indirectly, I would not be allowed to see her naked , I would not be allowed to touch/relieve myself, and things along the line, the thought of getting spanking/canning/whipping from him infront of her makes me so horny..

If you are able to comprehend my kinks and are in the same boat, please do dm. It is really hard for me to find Indian contacts who think-alike.