The next step

Young couple here who thought this could be spicy for us to attempt before we dial in for marriage.
We have done the dirty talk, her taking spicy pictures, using dildos and role-playing, is the next step to actually do it?

We tried a swingers club, but my partner was swarmed by mostly “unicorns”, not sure if it’s the outfit she wore but it felt very overwhelming for us.
We exchanged numbers and have made advancements.

Can anybody guide us on how do we know what to do next?