36 [M4F] #Chicago - Slow, teasing, hyper-intimate sex. Your pleasure comes first. Guys: you should read this too

36M, white, 5'8, 200lb, hazel eyes, short dark hair. Handsome, exercise 3-4 times a week. 5.5" cock. Live on the North Side, can host, DDF.

I describe how I am approaching sex at this point in my life. I know what I want, and what I'm looking for. I hope the following will give you a good idea of the type of intimacy I'm looking for.

Guys - I was told some of you need to be educated. Please read.

I didn’t really understand what most women wanted in bed when I was younger. A lot of guys (myself included) just did the bare minimum, skipped the buildup, and rushed to get inside. That was stupid.

Most women don’t just want to get pounded right away. They want atmosphere, a sexual vibe, real buildup. The longer you keep your cock in your pants, the better it usually is. Now I spend my time focused on her: kisses on the neck, nibbles on the ear, playing with her nipples, rubbing her thighs, gently caressing over her underwear, teasing around her pussy before ever going further. Every woman is different—it’s your job to figure out what she actually likes.

Sometimes you even have to hold her back. If she reaches for your cock in the first 30 seconds, gently stop her and whisper “not yet.” Start slow on her pussy too. Tease. Build. Wait for the right moment to go all out. Your entire focus should be on her until she cums at least once. Minimum. Fuck your own orgasm until then. (This is advice for average guys—if you’re packing a giant cock and can last forever, good for you.)

I love taking my time. It’s a completely different experience when she’s the focus. You’ll still get off. Just be patient.

I’m looking for a woman who wants exactly that kind of care and attention—long, slow, intimate, hyper-erotic encounters where we tease each other for hours. I want to edge your pussy on and off until you’re aching, then have you do the same to me. Soft and intimate that turns filthy. Kissing and cuddling that builds into something intense. Kinky is welcome as long as the foundation is still teasing, patient, and mutual.

I don’t like quick meetups. I prefer messaging first so we can get comfortable, talk about what we like (and share porn if that helps show preferences), and actually understand each other’s sexuality. I like knowing exactly what gets you going. I have my own things that get me going, and I'd love to talk about them too.

If this sounds like what you want, message me. Tell me what stood out to you in this post, or something about yourself (besides just your age/location).