I just want to know what these avoidant people are thinking?!?

So I was discarded by my fearful avoidant ex and I’m just so tired of all this info i’m getting from these “coaches” on TikTok… it feels like they’re all giving out different information, and i’m so tired and hurt from all this.

Is there an actual legit place where I can get real insight into how these avoidants think?

Please help me i’m so tired….