Hi all,

I’m \[F33\] getting married in early October to my fiancée \[F34\], and my mom is having the hardest time with picking an outfit.

To set the vibes of the day, we’re having our wedding at a fairly high-end local restaurant, with a short reception on their front patio beforehand. We’re going big on our floral budget and will have a live cellist for the ceremony and during dinner.

My mom is plus-size (as are we, the brides!) and is not having fun shopping at all. We recently went to a big chain store trying to find things for her, but the selection was extremely minimal and we didn’t have the most luck. What she wants is to wear a dress she purchased last year for my finacee’s sister’s spring wedding, but she ultimately never wore it because the weather was too cold at the time.

Personally, I think this dress reads very spring and very business casual, especially with the black blazer, but my biggest issue is it just doesn’t say “mother of the bride” to me, and I would love for my mom to pick an outfit that’s actually for this occasion. To me, a dress you’d wear as a wedding guest is probably not the same as a dress you’d wear as MOB! I’ve also attached pictures of a super cool pair of pants I think would be awesome for the wedding, although we haven’t found the right top for my mom yet. She however thinks these might not “fit the dress code” (hello, I’m telling you they’d be great after they’re tailored to fit, and with the right top!). I’m fine if she’s more comfortable wearing a dress, but just not this dress 😅

Am I being ridiculous or is that a reasonable request? Would this dress actually be fine? Sanity check requested!!

I’ve also attached photos of the custom suits the two of us are wearing (the brides!).

For full context, we’ve stated the dress code as follows:

“Our dress code is colorful cocktail. We'd love to see you in colors that make you shine!

Dos:

\\- Feel free to take inspiration from fall and its deep plums, rich greens, rusty reds, and warm yellows, or dip into the rest of the rainbow- the sky's the limit!

\\- Patterns very welcome.

\\- Midi-length or shorter dresses, jumpsuits, jackets, suits. Ties optional!

Don'ts:

\\- We kindly request no jeans.

\\- Don't feel the need to buy something new -- if color and pattern aren't for you, any cocktail attire is perfect!”

Mom having a hard time choosing wedding outfit; am I being unreasonable??