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hawa21q

Husband spending lots of time in bathroom every morning

Seeking Advice

I [ 26F] and my husband [36M] been married for almost two years now and in general everything is going well, we have some conflicts, misunderstandings from time to time… we try to talk about them and it’s mostly communication expectations etc..
he recently started a new job which is mostly remote and it’s giving him lots of flexibility… that he was looking for before… we agreed that he will be going to gym ( he rarely goes or exercise) some days he starts work at 10am but wakes up at around 6:30am watching his shows on Netflix then or playing PlayStation until his work time…

It’s just very uncomfortable for me to see him watching Netflix first thing in the morning … also, he would wake up multiple times at night and spends lots of time in the bathroom… I asked him before about it and he says I just scroll my Facebook…

I tried to remind him that now he has the possibility to workout… he gets annoyed and just tells me yes yes I know

We have sex almost every other day and I feel like during the days where we go for a walk together or have some dates, he’s much active and better at sex… I told him multiple times that I get more attractive to having sex when I see you active… at least going for walks or doing some sort of exercise but he doesn’t really care…

I worry a lot but I also I hate to be controlling or reminding him constantly… he plays mostly every day his PlayStation… and watches different shows everyday and scrolls Facebook all the time…

I talked to him a lot about it but I feel like whenever I am about to remind him again he gets very upset and it changes the whole atmosphere…

In the morning, I can’t really continue sleeping after he wakes up and spends like an hour in the bathroom then comes back to watch shows on his computer…

Please help me if you can. Thank you

Posted Aug 13, 2026, 4:44 PM UTC

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