Rereading ACOTAR and I am PISSED at Rhysand’s BS UTM

Rhysand was Amarantha’s arm candy and wh*re up until Tamlin failed to break his curse and is dragged UTM to take Rhysand’s place, because Tamlin was who Amarantha really wanted after all.

And you know what Rhysand did? Fresh off that trauma? This MOTHER EFFER! DOES BASICALLY THE EXACT SAME THING TO FEYRE. HE MAKES HER DANCE FOR HIM. Practically naked. in front of SO MANY PEOPLE. And because of the faerie wine and the fact that he can reset the paint SHE HAS NO IDEA WHERE HE COULD HAVE TOUCHED HER.

It doesn’t matter that the faerie wine “lessened the blow” by making Feyre forget what happened. What matters is that in order to stick it to Amarantha, to rub it in Tamlin’s face just to hurt him, Rhysand subjected Feyre to nearly the exact same trauma he went through. And he already mentions in book 2 he was jealous when Tamlin kissed her and that’s why Rhysand forcibly kissed her too. If he did that when Feyre was conscious, God knows what Rhysand did when she wasn’t.

Faeries can lie, and I don’t believe Rhysand’s explanation for it in book 2. The precedent that this sets, fictional or not, is horrific. I cannot understand how a male lead who did this to FMC ultimately ends up getting the girl. It makes no sense to me and it genuinely upsets me. No woman in her right mind would even FORGIVE a man for what Rhysand did to her, much less FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM!