I know that past sexual experiences don't matter in a relationship, but it still makes me feel bad.

Hi everyone, I'm 21 years old, and I'm about to start a relationship with a 24-year-old girl. We get along really well, our relationship is great, and she's already told me explicitly she wants a relationship with me. The thing is, even though I already knew her age and the experiences she'd surely had, these past few days, we were talking openly about sex, until she said something like..."On this subject, "There's very little I haven't already done." I'm not the type of guy who condemns a woman for the sexual relationships she's had. I've seen many people say that a woman loses value the more she has sex. But I don't agree with that at all. The problem is, even having this mindset and knowing that, in theory, I shouldn't even care about it, I felt bad. I keep thinking about it a lot. I get very upset. Whenever I have any sexual desire for her, I think, "Oh, but she must have already done that with another guy," and I get sad, imagining the scene. I know all of this is ridiculous. I know I shouldn't even care, but I still can't control this feeling. She's had sex with many people, and I've never been with anyone. Obviously, I don't feel any desire to condemn her for it. I don't think any less of her because she was very sexually active in the past, and I don't feel like ending the relationship because of that, because the love I feel for her is greater than all of that. But I'd like to know if anyone has any perspective or advice that might perhaps put my mind at ease.

Posted Aug 13, 2026, 4:54 PM UTC

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