I, 20M, need help on how to deal with what happened between me and my 20F friend. I feel lost.

Yesterday, a friend shared her Substack with me, and in case you don't know it, it's an app where you write your thoughts, your ideas, and things like that.

To me, everything I read was deep and touched me, it was like I had taken a leap into her soul, it was moving... There were very profound things, the writing of a beautiful mind.

I got emotional, they were ideas similar to mine, which I never shared, and wouldn't even have the courage to. Because of that, to me it felt like she had revealed much more than I've ever revealed, and that left me confused, with my emotions all mixed up, it's like she gave much more than I gave, it feels unbalanced to me.

And I went and told her exactly that, that I was kind of confused from suddenly reading all of that, we've known each other for a week and a few days. To me, I had access to a lot of her intimacy, at least that's how it sounded to me.

But her response was "what's the problem?" Basically, it calmed me down, maybe I gave it too much weight, but I still feel lost...

With that, I ask: was it right to express what I felt? Was it right to seek help from her about it? I shared some of my own clumsy writings, I tried to express myself better, but everything feels different now, I don't know what's going on

Posted Aug 13, 2026, 4:59 PM UTC

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