Having #2 with high needs #1?

Always envisioned 2 kids, but #1 is really difficult and high needs. Clingy, big emotions, bad sleeper. Has always been that way compared to other babies. I’m terrified of having a second who’s the same.

Each day is exhausting but I can’t shake the feeling of wanting another. We have no family nearby or village, which adds to the struggle.

What helped you decide you were ready or not?