Yk, getting misgendered and stuff :')

Just common frustration of being misgendered by someone you've come out to before.

Got called yesterday by an old classmate (we graduated school 3 years ago) who I hadn't been close with since like 8th grade (we still had a class together til the end, so we never really stopped being in contact during that time). I came out to her like half a year after graduating, not even on purpose, I just spontaneously joined two friends who were meeting with her at the time and they told her, cause she was like "Who's coming??" and then made like a whole deal out of being sooooooo understanding and oh definetly she won't have any trouble and to tell her if people are being mean and all that shit.

And then she calls me yesterday evening, I answer. Cuz wtf, is she dying in a ditch and couldn't scroll or smt? She greets me "Heeeey *deadname*, hey girl, where are youuuu?" in english. We're german, so I figure she called the wrong number. I correct her, she realizes who she calls and in a less then 2 minute calls manages too use my deadname 3 more times and call me girlie or smt as well. Tells me she picked the wrong contact (with that name)

I dont know why this bothers me, I dont even like her! But just. urghhhh. we arent even in contact anymore. but she messaged me after literally going "I just took the first *deadname* I found in my contacts". What am I doing there?

I think I'm just more sensitive about this rn cuz there's just been a loooot of misgendering happening in my life recently. Started a job (which I've done an internship at before so the coworkers arent the problem) but we work with people. And I know I don't pass. But ow. The only ones who ever clock me right are small children and other queer people. And my best friends mom (who had started getting the hang of my oh so veryyyyy difficult pronouns of he/him) haas reverted back to she/her.

And to top it off. My moms best friend (who I haven't seen in a couple years) celebrated her birthday. My parents went, I stayed home. Mom and bestie drink a few. I get a text. "please send a selfie, she wants to know what you look like". All that has happened so far is that I've got short hair now and i've aged like. 5 years or so. I get a voice message from my mom. They're both obviously drunk. "looks different! But *kinda muffled but along the lines of not really male*" "Yeah, cuz she still has boobs! *smt vaguely relating to my unfortunately large chest*"

Gee. Thanks mom. And moms bestie who has apparently never seen a trans person before. My mom has been so good with my pronouns these past months. But knowing she jsut goes back on it once shes drunk hurt.

This turned out longer than expected. On a positive note, my dad, whose terrible with my pronouns, called me his son for the first time ever on a phone call couple weeks back! That was really neat!