In marriage limbo

I (28 F) am married to my husband (31 M) we have been together for 13 years (high school sweethearts) but married for only 3 months 😭 essentially 2026 has been the year of changes for us. He graduated the police academy in February and I nursing school in May. Everything had been great up until 2 weeks ago. 2 weeks ago during a regular text exchange while we were both at work I expressed dissatisfaction with the job I had just started two days prior and mentioned quitting. < this is the conversation that blew the lid off everything. He responded about how bad the “economy” is and how unreliable I sound wanting to leave a job I just started. He began to withdraw a bit but I figured he needed some space. If it counts for anything he has avoidant attachment characteristics and I anxious. After a few days I confront him and that’s when shit really hit the fan he talked about being so stressed at work himself, feeling like he was forced to get married when we did and how he doesn’t think we can coexist in a relationship while he’s an officer cause of the stress?

Idk that led to the argument of all arguments then I went to work and came back and he was gone and so were all of his things 😭 I have never in my life been so devastated I have legit lost 10lbs in the last two weeks from the stress alone. Initially after he had left he talked about how it wasn’t me and it’s the job and how he needed time to sort everything out…. We’ve texted a few times and he came over yesterday to give me shoes that were in his car but even when I seen him yesterday he looked awful idk how to support him or what to do I’m distraught at the idea of divorcing cause I never intended to in the first place. Idk what I am even asking atp I think I just needed to get this out. I’ve been praying and trying to stay calm but I may need some more interventions cause I feel like I’m loosing my mind I didn’t even make it to work this week….. and the crazy thing is the week before we were so happy went to a concert had so much intimate time together then bam the next week everything is fucked…………….