how to get him over him

i met a guy in april off a marriage/dating app , we immieditately hit it off, like our first phone call was 8hours and we both didnt sleep that day because kept yapping. he got me so well and he was my exact type and i genieunly felt like our connection was strong and he said it too. after a week im on call with him and he just got home from a final and were talking about like our connection and we started rating our conenction and i said like attraction wise- 8/10 and vibe wise 8/10. he said our connection was a 9/10 and his attraction towards me was a 5/10 lol. i obviously got a little upset and he kept trying to fix things like 3 times he kept trying to get me to stay and i ultimately decided to end things because i was hella weirded out. his apology was very sincere and he even drew a pic of my cat to say sorry but i just was feeling really disrepected so i left.

in june i kinda missed him and i honestly just wanted to see him in person to see if we would work or not. what he said was diaboilcial but w one of my exes i was not attracted to him at first and later on i was really into him because i saw him in person and i gave it time. i texted him in june asking if he was open to discussing things and he told me he was thinking about reaching out and said he regrets how things ended and he was waiting to get a job to reach out. we talked and he told his sister and parents about me. last time we only talked for one week but tbh we spent every hour of the day together and i honestly talked to him alot so it felt longer. this time around we talked for a month but he could never call me because his family was visitng him and he was super busy like he legit would barely text and stuff and he didnt have time to hangout . like we made a plan and he didn’t rmbr it and i was just gonna ghost him because who tf forgets a first date. he sent a bunch of texts and apologized and he asked me if i could wait till his family was gone because he was overwhelmed and i was like fine i guess because i knew if i didnt see itrhought i would just keep thinking about it. he didnt text me for 9 days. he went camping and his family was leaving and he asked me for time but not texting me for 9 days is so crazy. like i want to be someone who is excited to talk to me and actually updates me and stuff but he asked for time and i gave it to him. his parents leave we start talking again , i tell him i miss calling him, he doesnt call me once and is hella dry with me. im like this guy does not like me cuz legit how do u like a girl and forget the first date and she asks u to call her and u make no effort lol. when i first met him he was doing a full time job doing his finals and doing a internship and he made time for me because he was geniunely excited to talk to me and he would 100% pursue me he made plans with me he would call me compliment me ask me things about myself and my intentions about marriage. this time around he has no job he graduated and no internship. he was just at home all day. and he still couldnt make time to text me properly or find time to call me. i legit was like this man does not let me ghost him and if i try to bring up ending things he will be sincere and tell me hes sorry and take accountability and we end up talking again. i tried to end things with him 3 times even though i really liked him . i just felt like he wasnt into me. and the final straw was when he took 19 hours to respond to my text AFTER his parents left. like dude. be so fr. and he was being so dry with me like no calls since ur parents left no plan to meet up and u barely text. like i was tired of even talking to him because i can’t teach a man to treat me right . so i texted him a very straight forward message like straight up telling him its over and i am not doing it anymore. i wasnt mad i just was really firm and i gave him no reason because he would try to keep talking if i did. its been 1 month. and i dont fucking know why i cant get him off my mind. I DIDNT EVEN SEE HIM, it was easier to get over guys i dated. he called me a 5/10 like what is going on oh my god. i know he wont come back because ive ended things like 7 times with him and i was very firm in not talking again i just keep thinking about him like legit. i talked to other guys and it was easier to get over a guy i was literally in love with . like bro oh my god. i keep dreaming about him. i dont know how to get him out of my head. i ended things because its what i wanted . i just dont know how to get over this like im tired of dating . i’ve meet 4 guys over the last 12months and im so tired . of the things not working or breaking up and like i just want to find my person man . this man confused me so bad . he called me a 5/10 but said the most romantic shit to me and and literally pursued ME like dude . he was the most romantic and funny dude i talked to. i legit have never connected w someone as well as i did with him.i still keep wanting him to message me for another chance but i know he won’t lol