I warned his girlfriend..

I (24f) was with a guy (46m) from my gym for just under a year. It was mentally, physically, sexually abusive and much more. I documented lots of it throughout. He discarded me three months ago, turns out a week later he starting dating another girl I went to school with. I couldn’t believe it, I only found out when I saw the two together because by this point I’d left the gym. I sent her a long message warning her about it, she said I saved her, they were going to get married in two months… (only having been together for 3 months). she told me he’s spent near to 15-20k on her in this time, that he’s never treated her wrong or laid a finger on her. never forced her into sex, never shouted at her or called her names or … the list goes on. he was totally different to how he was with me. though he did lie about his age like he did to me. but she overlooked it as did i.

we kept in touch over that week, she came to mine on the day we first spoke and i told her all. I was shocked that he’d never treated her like how he treated me. she was shocked by everything she saw and heard. she said she felt sick to her stomach, that she didn’t recognise him at all and that he was a narc. she had left him. the next week (this week) I saw she blocked me on whatsapp when I went to check in on her. So i went to her instagram and saw a profile picture of him and her together.

I don’t even know what to feel. in some ways it was a blessing and the closure that I needed, I realised how sick he really was and still is. In the same breath, I just can’t believe after seeing all my bruises, the things he used to say to me , how another woman can go back to a man like that? especially after seeing evidence of it? I feel worried about the things i shared with her, i feel vulnerable. details of the sexual coercion for example.. stuff that he used to twist when I would bring up the things he did. I know my name is probably getting smeared in that gym, but I won’t be going back. I just think it’s crazy.. I would’ve expected to cry at something like this but I just feel utterly numb i don’t even want to tell my friends or family about it because what’s the point, i’ve come out of this totally damaged and there’s not much anyone anything can say to me that I won’t expect them to say. did I just bring that out of him? was I just easy to take advantage of? or maybe i need to stop being such a victim.. just how someone can still weasel their way out of this and get what they want. what do I do? i mean there’s nothing i can do but what should I think? what should I feel? i feel like ive lost so much to this situation.

any advice or words .. please , how can i view this situation in a way that isn’t utterly heart breaking. he’s already derailed so much of my life, I want to start rebuilding desperately, I don’t want this to make me sink any further.