The Kelly Dilemma

I'm honestly lost at this point and rather close to looking up a save file editor so I can do what I want

I've done 2 playthroughs of ME2 via Insanity [using the same save]

and I can't for the life of me get Kelly to invite herself up to my chambers for dinner

I tried being friendly - Nothing

I tried being flirty [no romance] - Nothing

At this point the only thing left is romancing her to get her up there (this is because I want to keep my fish from ME2 into ME3 and I know she will do that)

But I don't want to romance Kelly; I want to romance Miranda [which I have in the past 2 playthroughs]