39 F4MorF PA- Looking for something…

I want a little intensity, a lot of depth, and mutual obsession.

I’m at a point where I know myself very well, I know what I want, and I’m not particularly interested in watering that down just to say I found someone.
I’m looking for a partner I can obsess with. Give me someone who wants to tumble down rabbit holes together, get ridiculously invested in shared interests, send each other things all day because “THIS MADE ME THINK OF YOU,” have conversations that accidentally last five hours, and generally become each other’s favorite person to experience life with.

I’m creative, curious, alternative, into old things, nature, psychology, and learning entirely too much about whatever has caught my attention this week. I have a dark sense of humor, I’m sassy, and I’m fairly dominant by nature. I have a big personality and I like people who have one of their own. And I need to actually be able to SEE that personality when we talk. This is a big one for me. Text me like you talk. Be weird. Be funny. Ramble. Send me three messages in a row because another thought occurred to you. Give me something to bounce off of. Somewhere in your first message, casually work the word raccoon into the conversation. Don’t explain it. I love depth, but I absolutely do not mean sending each other carefully composed essays that sound like we’re responding to a college discussion prompt. If every message feels formal, polished, and strangely devoid of personality, we probably aren’t going to click. I want conversation to feel alive.

Physically, I’m attractive, tattooed, and on the smaller side of curvy. I’m comfortable with myself and my body. If curvy women aren’t your thing, genuinely, no hard feelings. We’re just not each other’s person.

And on that note: attraction matters to me. A lot**.** I don’t think physical attraction is shallow, and I’m not interested in trying to manufacture chemistry that isn’t there. I’d rather we exchange selfies fairly early and save both of us from investing time and energy only to discover the attraction isn’t there. I’ll happily share mine too.

I’m in PA, and while I don’t need someone around the corner, I do want something capable of existing in the real world. Please be reasonably close or have enough autonomy in your life that meeting is actually possible. I’m not looking for a permanent pen pal.

I’m also not looking for a purely sexual connection. Sexual chemistry matters, but I want the rest of you too. I want emotional intimacy. Vulnerability. Affection. Intellectual connection. Someone I can laugh until I can’t breathe with and also have the uncomfortable, complicated conversations with. I want something that has weight to it.

Finally, I’m not posting this hoping someone will convince me to compromise on the things I know I need. I won’t. Please don’t shoot your shot assuming that once I get to know you, I’ll bend on something I’ve clearly said is important to me. I’d give you the same respect.

I want someone confident enough to know themselves, emotionally capable of building something substantial, and excited by the idea of two people being very, very into each other without either of them having to become smaller to make it work.

If you read all of that and thought **“**well, fuck, that sounds like me,” come say hi.