33 [M4F] Tall dom looking for long term sub

Hey! I'm looking for kind of a specific type of dynamic and hopefully will find it here. I'm willing to wait for the right person but I'm open to exploring how the dynamic will actually play out so if some or all of this interests you feel free to reach out, happy to talk through it and see if we are a match.

In short I sort of want a relationship with two parts. The public facing part is a super sweet relationship to make everyone jealous. I want to dote over each other at restaraunts, to surprise you at work with flowers and lunch, to travel and have you post pictures online to show how amazing our life is together, to make people jealous when we walk in the room.

The private part is the reason I'm posting on this sub. I very much want someone who is completely submissive and kinky at home. I'm interested in TPE, free use, cnc, bondage, overstimulation, and more. I find it hot to have this relationship that other people see as sweet and perfect on the outside, something my grandma would be proud of, only for the home life to be something else.

For me, I'm 6'4", white, bit overweight but have been losing a lot of it. Being fit and well put together is sort of part of the fantasy, it's ok if you aren't there currently as long as you are working that way. Child free and will remain that way, have a vasectomy so you won't need birth control. I've got a good career that will eventually move me out of Oregon so being willing to move for my job will be important. It's ok if you aren't local currently (though I would grealy prefer it) as long as you are willing to relocate eventually, either to Oregon or wherever I end up for my career in the future. I have a mix of nerdy and active interests. I like video games, sci-fi / fantasy media, shows and movies in general, but I also like going for walks and hikes, biking, playing tennis, etc.

For you, Ages 18+ are fine but prefer between 24-35, outside this range is ok. Also child free. Would like someone smaller then me (which based on my height is most people), I like being able to pick up and throw around my partner. Ideally somewhat in shape but like I said before, if you are working there we can do that together. Ideally close by but if not, willing to relocate eventually. Physical attraction is important to me but not the end all be all, though will still want to share pictures somewhat early on.

Last part about this whole thing, I would like it to be long-term. I'm big on setting boundries and after care, I want this dynamic to be enjoyable for both of us and that means making sure we are both fully on board with how we will walk it out. If you are interested, send me a message and lets see how things go, looking forward to hearing from you.