16 never dated and need advice (all are welcome) 🙏

So for context I’m an almost 17 year old girl and I’ve never officially dated anyone, never kissed a guy, and only recently started going to parties and stuff like that, I usually stay more inside of my comfort zone in terms of like going out and drinking but I’m pretty social and easy to get along with, and I’ve been told I’m pretty funny. Anyways, I have “talked” to a few guys, never very seriously, usually just in the phase of getting to know each other and then it kind of fizzles out (it’s been like 3 to be honest - so its not shocking those happened to not workout). But that’s not even my main issue (lowk I am kinda wondering why I still haven’t found anyone… but not the main point)… ok my problem is that I lowk get ATTACHED to these guys. I’m not trying to make it a humiliation ritual so I don’t spam text them or anything like that but I think about them constantly, like even if I’m on vacation il be like “hmm I wonder if Jack texted me.” (Even if we haven’t had a conversation in weeks). Or even worse I’m like mad at myself for it not working out and I’m like oh I must be too boring or something like that. I want to be able to talk to and get to know guys without it taking so much of my mental space… because it ruins the whole thing when I literally can’t just take it causally and lightly. I really do wanna get some dating experience before college.. and I feel like this current headspace is gonna make it hard to get out there and explore. Please help!!! Any advice or similar stories or anything at all would be greatly appreciated.

TLDR: get attached to every guy I even remotely “talk to” and can’t stop thinking about them even when I lowk don’t know if I even liked them that much and I just wanna be free