My LO is back and I just want to rant

My LO is my ex, we were on and off for three years during which I never seriously dated someone else because I knew I was always in love with him. We ended things eventually because he was lying to me, had no time for me, and was pulling away, so I decided to put myself out my misery and break up with him.

Now I am in a very very very happy relationship with my new boyfriend, I truly never think of my LO and have gotten over my limerence. It took a lot and I did have to go completely no contact, which meant I have no idea what he’s been up to for the past year.

Except he called me at 2am a few weeks ago. He wanted to catch up. We spoke for ten minutes on the phone and then I went back to sleep. He sounded a bit drunk. He said he wanted to hear my voice. That he wondered what I had been up to. I didn’t tell him much, but my life has genuinely gotten more successful since he left it, and I humbly let him know how I just graduated, I got a great result, and I politely told him I’m in a relationship now. He told me he has a girlfriend, but that they’re long distance, and that they were “trying to make it work”. Anyway, he told me he was proud of me, and it was a nice enough conversation. I’m not bitter and no hard feelings. I’m happy for him.

When I was hanging up he asked me if I wanted to meet up some time for coffee. I asked why. He said it would be platonic. I said no thank you anyway. And I found that strange not just because he knows I have a boyfriend, but because he says he has a girlfriend. He has been behaving strangely recently. He ran into a mutual friend of ours at a party, told her he loved me, told her what a good and special person I was, and according to my friend, seemed hurt that I had a boyfriend now. (Though at the time, he also would have been in a relationship with HIS girlfriend).

Hes banned on Instagram. Dont ask why. He made a fake account to follow me, and he keeps doing it persistently. I keep having to block them, he is blocked everywhere, but keeps popping up anyway. I find it strange because I don’t know what he wants from me. I have nothing left to give him. I’m happy. I want to be left alone. A small part of me wants to rub my success in his face, of course, but most of me never ever ever wants to hear from him ever again. Every single time we engage it involves manipulation, anxiety, self doubt. The last time we spoke, when he told me he had a girlfriend, he said he had been with her for over a year…the time lines would’ve overlapped and he would’ve been dating her when he was still sleeping with me. I feel sick.

Sorry for the rant. I don’t know if I need advice or support or what. I just want to erase him completely, but he’s making it impossible. thank you for reading.