I can’t get wet enough for sex

For context I find it rly hard to get wet enough for sex with him unless I’m drunk. When he eats me out it doesn’t rly feel that great no matter what I tell him to do I don’t know if it’s me or him. I can only rly get wet if I watch porn and wank off myself or like I said If I’m having drunk sex. I don’t know if it’s anxiety or if it’s him or if it’s me. I am extremely attracted to him so I don’t know what’s going on. Has anyone else had this problem???