Many people are so messed up right now

LONG POST AHEAD.

Just wanna share.

Last week I(M) DM'd a guy who were looking for someone he could jam with nearby his place. I am a guitar player, he is too, we both have recording equipments etc. I asked him if he was ok doing cover songs instead by working independently on our parts in the song at the comfort of our own homes. I saw a couple of his cover songs and they were good enough for me to decide to collab with him if he also could. I even decided that I will do all for us: Editing and mixing of our audio and video. So all he has to do is to play and record his part and then he will send it to me (both audio and video) then I will do the rest.

Everything was clear and smooth during our first interaction that we already decided what song we would cover. We were on the same wavelength when it comes to music preference and guitar playing style. I told him that I have been on hiatus for years, turns out he is too. I established a very friendly brotherly tropa-level interaction between us.

Later the same day, he told me he wanted to send his progress already so I was like wow this guy is dedicated so I took it as a challenge. We moved to Whatsapp and there he sent me his initial short progress and I was impressed. In fact, I can say he plays better than me which inspired me to catch up even more.

The next day, I woke up early to do my other regular personal stuff much earlier as I would dedicate the rest of the day practicing and recording my parts on the song. I even messaged him in WA informing him of my delayed replies in case he sends his parts or progress whatsoever.

Around late afternoon when I finished, I sent him my progress (whole song). At the back of my mind, once I received his finished work I will redo mine because there maybe some small parts in the song that I was afraid we would overlap unknowingly. However, I heard nothing from him that entire day at all. I gave it to him, he mentioned early that he has work duties anyway so I took that into consideration of course. I did not message him anything further than my progress.

The following day, I kept checking both Reddit and WA for his updates as early as around 6am. Around 8am I finally decided to ask him here in Reddit for any updates. After about an hour he replied and apologized as he was swamped by work, and that he had not turned on his WA notif, and then told me he would continue recording and polishing some few parts left. That gave me a renewed excitement expecting he was almost done, so that I can re-visit my parts to ensure our energy would match in the song in the end.

Are you sensing the adjustments and considerations that I am doing here so far? If yes, then good job you just passed the "empathy test" for yourself.

Now going back.

After about 2 hours, he sent something in WA. He sent me an isolated audio of his guitar part not the entire song yet though. Then another audio incorporating his in-progress with my in-progress in to the backing track of the song. Then he said that that's the only thing he could do so far and he would record again when time permits. I basically answered go ahead sure I will just wait.

That was our last conversation. It was AUGUST 12TH. And then radio silence.

Overall, I was very considerate of his end. For example, when we were still talking the first time I proposed which particular part was his and mine, and then I asked him if he had concerns about it feel free to let me know so we could adjust. Even during choosing the song we would work on I was the one who suggested at least two songs but I encouraged him if he wanted something else whatsoever. I never heard anything from him but agreement. He never challenged me, he just agreed as if he was really committed and sure. Or just so I thought!

I WAS COMMUNICATING PROPERLY WITH GREAT CONSIDERATION FOR HIS CAPACITIES AND POSSIBLE CHALLENGES ON HIS END, I MADE HIM FEEL FREE TO SUGGEST SOMETHING ELSE OR PROPOSE OTHER IDEAS WHATSOEVER. WE WERE ON A BRO TYPE OF CONVERSATION. ALL HE GOTTA DO IS TALK. FUCKING TALK LIKE A FUCKING REAL MAN! HE NEVER FUCKING TALKED. HE JUST HAD TO TALK IF HE HAD ISSUES OR CONCERNS WHATSOEVER. OR IF HE COULDN'T COMMIT ANYMORE GUESS WHAT HE HAD TO DO: FUCKING TALK!! HE JUST HAD TO FUCKING MAN UP AND FUCKING TALK!

I WAS BASICALLY THE ONE DRIVING EVERYTHING AND HE MADE IT LOOK LIKE WE WERE ON THE SAME BOAT.

See, it's just now that I decided to post about this when our last interaction ended last week and I was the last reply because I was still hoping and trying to be understanding....until I am not, just now. I never heard from him anymore since August 12th and I don't feel like making any further follow-ups either because I showed him how manned up I was to commit to the thing we both agreed on. I would completely understand if we suddenly don't talk anymore after a few exchange for as long as we never expressed commitment and agreement to do something very specific, but we did, WE FUCKING DID.

I am not new to this type of people but it still saddens me because I keep asking myself why do I always meeting people with no sense of basic human courtesy? Among other types, I meet people who were either too judgmental, extremist, lacks common sense, jumps faster to conclusion, user, and then this mofo I just talked about.

Am I really unlucky or it's just the fucked up people covers a huge majority of the current demographics?

Now I guess no wonder why the modern dating pool sucks across genders. You usually encounter this attitude on people in the dating scene but it turns out most people nowadays really has some fucked up commitment and communication issues that extends over every other level of human interaction. If one can't even commit to a simple short-term non-intimate endeavour what more to something that requires unparalleled efforts and consistency like romantic relationships?

I am not new to doing things alone, you have no idea about how strongly-centered my life is to solitude that I consider this is as my core trait. But whenever I attempt to do things with another person I notice that it just gives me more reason to do the thing alone. I connect to feel human but every attempt just gives me more reason not to do it again.