38 [M4F] Kinky Single, not dating, but looking for regular and ongoing FWB connection. (#Burnaby)

I’m single, busy, not swiping on apps & not dating.. I am looking for someone I like for something good.. whether or not it involves having any kink dynamic in it..

38y/o, Brown Man, live/can host in Burnaby: Brentwood, 6ft, (pic in profile) currently got the ex-gym dad bod.. and getting back to my healthier fitter self, tattooed, shaved stubble head & face, well groomed, clean: I do alcohol/weed, no other drugs, no sti/std, big on overall hygiene & grooming and I expect same..

wanting ongoing FWB, something consistent & fun.. I’m seeking a regular situation (I prefer exclusive longer-run connection with a good match.. that’s the goal at least). I’m not in a rush, but open and seeing if someone great is here who I’d vibe well with..

seeking someone serious about starting something IRL. I’ve put a lot out there in my profile posts to get most of the things out the way instead of saying it all over chats especially kinkwise but everyone’s kinky, I’m looking for good overall mutual chemistry for this.. so not listing specific kinks like some sort of checklist..

I’ve posted before but haven’t met anyone from here for this.. I’m not doing the out drinking at bars thing & work is not conducive to meeting someone for this.. I posted ads on Reddit & Fetlife but I don’t scroll either myself so unless someone seeing mine reaches out, idk..

I’m generally busy business hours Monday to Friday but evening/nights or weekends I’d definitely make time for someone. Although I work a lot, I have some flexibility being remote wfh with meetings for daytimes as well specifically for an initial social meet & greet/vibe check.

- clarifying:

I’m childfree, petfree, apolitical, atheist, open to but not rushed to find ‘the one’/‘forever person’. Currently, I just want a fun ongoing connection to add to my life.

Racially I’m South Asian: Indian but I’m born & raised in Canada. Never been part of local Indian communities or had the large conservative family dynamics, and I tend to enjoy partners being from various backgrounds.

And, not sure why it is but people also guess a bunch of different backgrounds, but I don’t think there’s anything racially ambiguous about me.. I’m a 90s kid who grew up with a mix of people, maybe it’s possibly the lack of cultural stuff in my upbringing etc, but I feel it’s mostly rooted in negative stereotypes around here.. I’ve been asked so many times in chats I’ve ignored that I figured best to define race to avoid those messages altogether.

- I don’t reply to generic no intro messages:

If interested, check out my profile, all posts are visible, I’ve posted in other subreddits.. trying this one out too. I’m a private person but I’ve got nothing to hide so have put it all out there to see if there’s someone I click with.. this is just a possible way to connect.

Introduce yourself, tell me a little bit about yourself first; look from my perspective, if it was reversed: you put up detailed posts with partial pics, then someone sent you a message without any info.. I hope you wouldn’t reply..
I’ve put full cards on table for you to figure out if you’re interested but without any actual info or intro I won’t be able to tell or know if I am; being a man wanting a FWB doesn’t mean I’m easy.. I do have a high libido but it is directly correlated with chemistry/vibe.

- I’m practical, I like to keep it simple & straightforward:

after of course initially texting & pic swaps beforehand to get a sense of the other, check baseline attraction, clear up any pertinent questions, etc., in order to meet..

text convos won’t tell us if we have in-person chemistry or whether it will become more beyond virtual chatter & I’m not here to waste my time/energy or anyone else’s.. so I like a lowkey short meet to see if real world mutual attraction/energy/rapport is there for us or isn’t;

ie. we have chemistry & want more.. or we don’t & so we won’t. If we meet, don’t click, we go our separate ways having taken the shot.. but, let’s get there first.. otherwise, there’s no reason for you to message me.. especially, if it’s for online distraction/not for real world.

- ending thought:

It seems to me people say FWB in lieu of NSA hookups nowadays.. I don’t enjoy hollow random one offs; I like having one woman I mesh well with to see regularly.. building a real connection and a comfortable dynamic not constantly chasing the novelty of somebody new.. I’ve had great FWBs in the past (but wasn’t off Reddit) and I enjoy relational dynamic of FWB with right match. I’m looking, I’m open, I’m not thirsty for just anybody..
I’m seeking a fun match.

If you read this far, my post must have resonated.. I’m not chasing perfection, I just want one fun connection: someone & something worthwhile to add to life.. which shouldn’t be as much work to find as dating seriously..
but the low/no effort DMs don’t make it easy.. and, I’m on work devices so much that I prefer to disconnect, to be free.. so without any real intent or effort incoming, I don’t bother responding on these platforms nor scroll around etc. when I have free time given it’s one word, questions or generic chats that I mostly get.