Was it rude to not show up for mother’s day lunch, at my nans house?

I swear i tell this story all the time, and i get alot of mixed reactions. I would love to hear what you guys think. So (F20) have a nan and pop on my father’s side. my Pop is always supportive and loving and calls me once a week, while my nan on the other hand does not. Now i will try and not be biased and word this so its not coming out very emotionally.

The last example i can think of was just before mothers day, my Nan and Pop came over to out house. Keep in mind we do not see them a-lot as they live over an hour away and thats a long drive for them. I was told by my dad to stay longer at home, since i had originally planned to leave in the morning to go to my boyfriends and help paint. So i did, i stayed an extra 3 hours. I was wearing painting clothes, short bike shorts, and a old ragged t-shirt. I was also no wearing makeup, which to be honest is quite common since i don’t wear makeup unless i’m going out on a date.

At the end of the visit, my nan was in a horrible mood, she was distant, did not want to talk and kept going on about weight. I am 170cm tall and only 67kilos. But for her that is huge, I copped many comments about how i used to be skinny and looked a-lot like her, since i’m blonde. “But recently i look a-lot like my mum”. Now my mum is a-lot shorter and some would consider chubby. So i was extremely hurt at the fact she tried to dig at my mum, Now i may be taking a leap. So i didn’t day anything i just nodded as i was collecting the plates from lunch.

The next comment was the reason i did not show up to lunch, She looked at me up and down and sighed. “are you sure you want to wear that” “those shorts are pretty short and show off your thighs” “your boyfriend must really love you, if you show up with no makeup”. I was pissed, i had stayed back 3 hours just to be insulted the entirety of the time. And it made me even more mad at the fact everyone around the table did not say a word. My dad turned a blind eye, so i just said okay im off and left. The next weekend was mothers day, so i spent it at my boyfriends house. Was i in the right???