The person who touts themselves as a good friend is the same as the “nice guy” who isn’t so nice

Am I wrong?

I’m reflecting on two former friends I had at different points like this.

People who prided themselves as really good friends. People who were there for others, built community, invested in relationships. They both made friends easily and had a lot of friends.

But one turned out to have secret animosity/jealousy towards me. Putting me down in front of other people, things like that.

The other left me on read when I had a really busy/bad month getting sick, my grandma dying, and interviewing with Amazon which is a full time job in itself. When I finally got back to them and asked about their new job, silence.

Oh well.

I don’t think you can trust someone claiming to be something or a certain way. They’re projecting an image of something they’re not. Like the “nice guy” trope who turns out to be an A-hole.

Or a seemingly confidant woman who says “Im so hot” but is really insecure deep down - that’s something both of these friends actually said too which is wild to think back on