Seven free printable worksheets for partners of people with DID

My wife has DID. Early on, the hardest part wasn't the diagnosis, it was that nobody hands you anything practical. Plenty of material explains what DID is. Almost nothing tells you what to actually do at 2am when something shifts and you have no idea what you're looking at.

So I made worksheets, mostly for myself at first. I've put them up free. No signup, no email, no paywall.

The thing I'd stress: these are meant to be filled out when things are calm, not pulled out mid-crisis. The point is that the shape of it is already familiar if you need it later. Reading one for the first time during a hard moment defeats the purpose.

What's there:

Reading the Five Levels — An observation ladder across five levels of nervous system readiness, six channels each, plus sections on masking and collapse and a two-week log. The most involved one.

The Partner's Communication Cheat Sheet — A wallet card and a full page version. Signals you can actually observe, questions that leave room for an honest answer, and the mistakes that shut a conversation down.

Fair Process After a Memory Gap — For resolving a conflict fairly when only one of you witnessed it. This one took me the longest to get right, because "just talk it out" doesn't work when one side genuinely wasn't there.

Meeting a New Part — A short, high contrast card for the actual moment someone new steps forward. What safe looks like, what to say, what not to do.

Protector Trust Audit — Private reflection prompts about your own part in a repeated protector reaction. Not theirs. This one is uncomfortable on purpose.

Observation Log — Deliberately non-diagnostic. It never asks you to name a part or a level, only what you observed, what you did, and what happened next.

My Grounding Plan — Test sensory, cognitive, and body based techniques while calm, then build a plan around what actually works for you or the person you support.

Each links back to the article it came from if you want context first, and each has a printable version.

Worksheets: https://leadwithsafety.com/worksheets/

Standard disclaimer, and I mean it: I'm a licensed counselor but not yours, and none of this replaces care from a qualified professional. Every worksheet carries the 988 crisis line.

Happy to answer questions, and genuinely open to hearing what's missing. Most of these exist because I couldn't find them anywhere.

(Disclosure: my site.)