31M - married to a kangana ranaut personality

Before marriage I had exactly 6 months to know her, since it was a long distance I didn't suspect a thing when we met or during our long calls.

The problem started from day 1 of marriage, constant complaints, every disagreement was a courtroom drama, anything not according to her is a national controversy and the verbal abuse is so horrible and disrespectful that it is beyond imagination. Not to forget the victim card.

It would start with me but then when I try to de-escalate, the range of attacks increases to my family members using every bit of information I shared earlier completely breaking my trust in her. Things don't stop here she will abuse my family over call, message or sometimes when we visit directly on their face.

The utter disrespect stunned me multiple times, even I never talked to my parents in that way or tone. My elderly parents get so stressed by all these that their mood stays off for days. My heart breaks when I see them so helpless.

I live in an absolute horror about what might trigger her, sometimes it feels like she is willingly destroying this marriage. And after every such incident she will say sorry and move on like nothing happened between us. I already shared my concerns with her but it is of no use.

If a fight starts early in the morning, she can prolong it until late at night and sometimes for days due to which the day is completely wasted, usual occurrence during weekends and as a hardworking man my resting time is completely destroyed which leads to a drained long week.

She considers herself an independent, working woman, but she is unwilling to share household expenses or financial responsibilities. Whenever I try to discuss our finances or plan for the future, the conversation often becomes highly confrontational. I am told that, as a man, I am expected to provide everything, and any discussion about finances is interpreted as me eyeing her money or expecting dowry. For context, I did not take any money or dowry during our marriage. Separation or divorce is also brought up repeatedly during disagreements, making it extremely difficult to have a constructive conversation or resolve issues peacefully.

When we are out and if I ever by any chance make her pay even 1 rupee it is like the world's end. She will abuse and disrespect openly on the road in front of people.

When I fall sick, forget about taking care she will openly say to my parents don't send him back until he is fully recovered I won't take care of him.

Some of her favourites

- Comparing me with others

- Complaining about me to others and bringing other people in the marriage

- Disrespect and verbal abuse

Her recent statement out of nowhere when there was a disagreement

"Tu tere ma ke saath bacche paida kr*"*

I know one wrong step and every law in this country will be against a man, no one knows how much I control myself when insults are thrown towards my parents, I don't fear the law I just don't want my parents to go through any trouble because of me.

For now I am thinking of distancing myself from her.