I feel guilty for having a “stalker”

Hi y’all, this is weighing heavy on me and I’ll try my best to keep it as short and sweet as possible. For the past 8 years, I’ve been dealing with this issue. Years ago I met someone, we had a brief hookup and overall just broke it off due to them lying to me (doesn’t really matter now). Since then, once every 1-2 years they’ll find my social medias, reach out, etc and I’ll make it apparent that I don’t want to engage with them, block their profiles, deactivate my accounts and make new ones. Usually it doesn’t bother me as much because the person does not threaten me, I do have cameras and have not seen anything go on outside my house. So, really it’s just the same cycle where I block them and they find me somewhere else online and I block again. Recently I got into a relationship and I did let my partner know all the details and I did not leave any information out.

When me and my current partner first talked about it, it didn’t go well. My partner did not like the fact that I had an old fling try to make amends and I was not letting them take over to help. They also did not like that I wasn’t taking legal actions due to it (I decided not to take legal actions because there’s not enough evidence to show stalking, I only have ss of them trying to follow and that’s totally my fault). In these moments I only wanted them to be there for me. We did eventually agree to just keep open communication about it and to keep my partner in the loop if it happens again. Talking to them about it makes me anxious only because I know they feel very different about how I’m handling it and it at times makes me feel like my experience isn’t valid. I still do continue to let them know if anything happens, but there’s this “I told you so” aura in the air that makes me feel shitty. I hate that I’m putting them through this trouble.

Of course, the way my partner feels about the situation is VERY valid because it is VERY scary, I just needed to get this off of my chest.