\^\^ Me after watching the plight of Julia in this episode \^ 

I'm watching every episode of 90 Day Fiance from the start and sharing my thoughts.

I've never seen this season before.

Here are my thoughts on each couple:

Brandon & Julia:

\*Julia is GOING to be sneaking into Brandon's room for nookie, why, I don't know because I can't believe there is actually someone in the world who wants to fuck Brandon enough to sneak into his room at night.

\*WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK - WHO IS THIS FAMILY FRIEND ACCUSING JULIA OF "SLACKING". ?!!! She is not an employee! 

\*Okay, it's become apparent that Julia is the victim of human trafficking. She was lured here until the pretense of love, but it almost seems like the whole family has tricked her into moving across the world so Brandon can use her for sex, and the parents can use her for labor.

\*I need more information about what was told to Julia about the expectation that she'd do farm work before she flew to the USA. They are talking to her like she is an employee - did she agreed to this!? Because it seemed like Brandon implied they wouldn't even be living on the parents farm for long, and now she's expected to run the farm! 

\*Brandon is EVIL. Your fiance tells you that she's unhappy, and he asks zero follow up questions, sighs at her and makes it sound like she is the problem. Why does she have to look after the pigs if she doesn't want to, she is not a farmhand! 

\*Fuck you Pop Pop. Your grandson is not a prize. Have you considered that maybe Julia is the one being used - see above about the forced labour.

\*Brandon seemed so pleased with himself for giving Julia some hickeys.

\*Brandon is a loser. He clearly has major mommy issues. He looked like a petulant child arguing over the wedding date. Don't get me wrong, he should pick the date that suits them, but he seemed almost too pleased at his mother's displeasure. It seems like he picked mother's day to get revenge on his mother for the control she exerts over his life.

\*Having said that - the mother's reaction was WILD. She was losing it! She hates not having control.

\*I've turned completely on the mother. Her fake cheer is no longer fooling me.

Rebecca and Zied:

\*Why is NOBODY on this show able to find the time to ready their homes before their partners arrive? 

\*I don't think living in the same building as where you lived with your ex doesn't sound like a big deal to me, but the fact that it's being kept in the edit makes me pretty sure it'll become an issue.

\*It was genuinely moving to see Tarik say goodbye to his family.

Mike & Natalie 

\*Natalie says "why would I hold something that would harm me" when offered a firework. Natalie, there are a lot of people making choices that cause themselves harm on this show.

\*The bleach thing seems staged to me. 

\*I'm getting a little bit tired about Natalie complaining about the cold house. Wear a sweater girl.

\*Mike's life sounds miserable. A 3 hour commute each way, every day. No thank you.

\*Julia does seem very excited to see a waterfall and she seemed so excited to be at a restaurant. Her joy is wonderful.

\*I'm a non drinker but Natalie is being intense about Mike's drinking - we haven't seen him drink to excess and he never pretended to be a non drinker.

\*As soon as I'm on Natalie's side she does something to get me off side. Making faces and criticising someone's meal as it arrives is rude AF. As Mike said, he was honest about eating meat and I don't like her pressuring him.

\*The way these 2 take jabs at each other about drinking, meat etc. is not nice.

\*Okay, so Natalie wants Mike to change for him. Her wanting to exert control over him so he can prove he "respects" her is a toxic attitude for her to hold.

\*But Mike holding the ring over her would make me crazy too.

Tarik & Hazel

\*American breakfast is a heart attack on a plate. It is possible to eat rice at breakfast time if Hazel wants, it isn't outlawed.

\*Tarik is VERY KEEN to marry Hazel.

\*It makes me so sad to see Hazel missing her son.

\*Hazel's church looks scary AF.

\*What the actual fuck is this proposed wedding venue - crystals, a famous psychic, I agree with Hazel that is very weird. And our visit here made it clear that Tarik is very kooky.

\*Both Tarik and Hazel need to stop trying to convince the other to accept their preferred wedding venue and try and consider a venue that would make them both happy.

Jovi and Yara

\*I feel like Yara is attaching too much meaning to a rug.

\*Jovi - people definitely pee on the street in New Orleans.

\*Yara looks MISERABLE in her confessional 

\*Yara wants to move to California to be best friends with Kylie Jenner. 

\*Yara - nobody likes bad surprises

\*"Every time something is wrong for a girl you need to buy them a gift, it's kind of what they expect" 🤮🤮🤮 this is a real quote said by Jovi - this is straight up misogyny.

\*Having said that, Yara looked SO HAPPY to receive the iPhone, and Jovi looked delighted to have made her happy.

\*I completely feel for Yara being alone in a new country, but Jovi has been honest with Yara about his work (and I think his own upbringing has normalised fathers being away for work) so I'm not sure it's fair that she is so critical of him leaving for work.

\*I'm glad Yara raised the Albania incident - they need to discuss so they can have a chance to heal. 

Andrew & Amira

\*Not in this episode 

Stephanie & Ryan 

\*OH my FUCKING God. Hula hoop lady is secretly PAYING RYAN'S WAGES. THIS IS FUCKING WILD.

This is a new and exciting plot twist for this show.

\*That is such manipulation. It's dishonest. Why are you lying to the man you want to marry.... This is gross. If I found out I only had my job because my fiance was secretly paying my wages I'd be humiliated.

  

Episode discussion - 90 Day Fiance S08E05 - Who's the boss?