How to like him again

My husband and I have had a rough past few years and exceptionally rough past year after our child was born. I genuinely question sometimes whether I even like him anymore. I have a lot of resentment towards him and despite him improving in some ways recently, I find myself not particularly warm towards him and often feel dislike or irritation towards him. I know this isn't helpful for the marriage. I also feel like its difficult to distinguish between a boundary and being cold or uncaring.

An example..

Last week he had a late night at work. It's his job in the morning to get the baby changed and dressed for the day. I asked him the night before if he will still be able to do this and he said yes. Morning comes around and I wake him up and he says he needs more sleep. I tell him the baby needs to be dressed and he says he needs more sleep. I open the curtain and leave the room with the baby. He later tells me that he is extremely mad at me for waking him, that I am extremely inconsiderate, that he is not going to forget this and he's going to treat me the same way because that's the only way I learn.

How would you respond to this? Was this uncaring?

I don't feel that my actions were wrong but I do see how I could have been more understanding. And then I wonder that maybe my feeling towards his sleep is a reflection of my overall feelings towards him.