I F26 visit a friend F26 of 10+ yrs to NOLA and as soon as we hit the streets her entire vibe changes, she pivots our plans by ending the night short and our friendship. Yet only told me once what I did to upset her . So I left .

I need advice I don’t want to admit to myself that my friend was jealous of me . I’m wondering how do I approach a conversation with her ? I feel my disappointment turning into anger from betrayal . I feel weird with no closure about the friendship I thought we had . I feel stupid for missing the signs of whatever that was .

We planned this trip 2 months in advance, and Saturday was supposed to be BIG, stay out ALLLL night. We had many phone calls about what the night would intel , Uber so we could drink , club hop, side questing , staying up till 5am , getting breakfast .

Saturday started great. We went to a rooftop bar and both got attention, but once we got to Bourbon Street, I started getting approached and complimented A LOT from men and women . This is when I noticed her energy completely change.

At one point, a guy bought me a drink . I didn’t know tho . I excitedly told her and even offered to get her one, but her expression was blank and she just said “ok” and disappeared again and I found her in line for the bathroom . Later she’s talking to guy in the meantime I’m next to her tripping out about being on a balcony on bourbon for the first time . He invites me to the convo and asked me a question about me visiting . 2 seconds later I realized she was gone I told him I have to go find my homegirl have a nice night . I find her at the bar getting a drink . He then found me and asked for my insta and by then I could really feel that something was way off. In my mind I was having friendly banter , Dance/walking, complimenting women and 2 drinks in liquor had me feeling good !

Eventually, she pulled me into a secluded patio area and confronted me after I asked her what was wrong . She said I’m prolly too drunk to even understand her , I was moving how I wanted, talking to guys she had talked to, going to the bar without making enough space for her, something about instagram and I’m walking too fast. She said she didn’t move like that with her other friends and that right now the vibe wasn’t there for her.

I was shocked. I apologized immediately and told her that wasn’t my intention. I also told her I wasn’t drunk , tipsy maybe and that I’d make sure she stayed beside me, while pointing out that she had been walking away from me and I already told her safety is the #1 priority . After that, I stayed next to her, held her hand, slowed down, took all her criticism on the chin and corrected . I even shooed guys away quickly . But her mood still didn’t change.

Around 2 AM she wanted to leave said she was tired , even though we had planned to stay out much later. We take an uber ride back I’m searching google for food and she won’t talk to me .

Back at her apartment she randomly said I was taking her for a joke when I asked about food She told me the key is right there I can go out and get it. ….it is 3am so I ignored this then asked how her night was and she said “alright I had to tell you about yourself then it got better but me being tired has nothing to do with you.” I asked her to repeat what she had told me on the patio, she refused . Stated that she already told me and she doesn’t have to again . I repeated what I thought I heard and she said “I’m not confirming or denying” . I told her the night didn’t go how I expected and which was echoed back to me. She called me still drunk and that I’ll ask again tomorrow so that’ll make it 3 times she’ll have to repeat it so she’s just not gonna .

Eventually she told me to get out of her room , that I’m being childish she just wants to sleep . I told her ima just let her have it and let’s just call it a misunderstanding.

The next morning she was cold and rude to me. I even helped her with her car battery even trialed behind her to a shop, but eventually I told her I was leaving early because the energy between us felt completely off. I didn’t see us continuing with good energy
Her response : “I just don’t see us being friends anymore.” “Who’s gonna put effort into the friendship” “We’re long distance” “We have our lives” “sometimes people outgrow each other”
I was kinda speechless . I told her if we talked still it would be organic like it’s always been what do you mean . Anyways when I left I gave her a hug told her i love her and she was reluctant but that felt like the last time I’ll see her . She then sent me a Zelle request for $17 .

TLDR : Planned city night didn’t go as planned . I got a lot of attention from women and men . I was having fun but friend confronted me about my behavior , I corrected . I asked about what she said back at her apartment, she refused to repeat herself . The next morning she was still cold and rude so I decided to end my trip short . She responded with she doesn’t see us being friends after this .