Help! I'm too sick and hurt - emotionally, physically and mentally and need to figure out a plan fast..
I am stuck and need out fast.tl;dr
I'm 34 years old with a one year old and a two year old daughter and I I've been married to my husband since 2025. I became pregnant one month after meeting him in 2023 with our now 2-year-old daughter. This past year he has unfortunately really shown me that I'm in love with him he isn't in love with me. I'm dealing with a situation that I don't want to be in, my husband who I love to death and thought I would be with forever as physically emotionally and verbally abused me in multiple different types of ways since I've met him on and off except this pattern of behavior has became almost daily this past year and I just can't do it anymore and I cannot have my daughters around this type of yelling and screaming and fighting and the type of person he is to not only me but them as well.. I do not have family that can help us or that I even talk to you I don't have any friends anymore and I don't talk to anybody at all. I don't have a vehicle I don't own a house or even rent an apartment, I am living in a hotel room with our daughters and him and have been for almost a full year now. I'm broke and only get disability once per month. I want to work except I don't have a sitter for my kids and I can't leave them alone with him and he hasn't let me work anyways.. so I'm basically trapped with someone who mentally mind effed me and has made me waste too much time trying to love them to where I forgot about myself and let myself stay in this position. He tells me daily now that he doesn't like me and then tries to blame everything that he does on me but there's no excuse for his behavior it's just who he is so I'm trying to figure out a plan for me and my two daughters. I have chronic Lyme disease and pots syndrome. A few weeks ago I was just in the hospital for pneumonia sepsis and I'm still recovering. I can't go more than a couple more days being in the same room as him because of how sick and anxious I am around him and the energy of feeling that someone truly doesn't like you and doesn't want to be with you but the only reason they're there is because they don't have anywhere to go either. I'm just trying to come up with a plan and I'm looking for a little bit of not necessarily advice on my marriage and I'll save it or what is happening in it because I clearly know what is going on in my marriage and see it I'm dealing with the narcissist sociopath type of person basically and I'm trying to find a smooth safe way out because I have to protect myself and my children. He's already threatened the worst stuff on me, to kill myself, death, evilness, making sure I don't have anything, making sure my kids get taken away, just alot. I'm battling a lot of anxiety and trauma from him so anyone out there that can reach out to me that would be great I really need it right now and I really need to figure something out fast I'm kind of stuck so I don't know what options I have. Help!!
Posted Aug 28, 2026, 7:42 AM UTC