Coworker rant

I put my gender in here because I think it is relevant to the story.

This coworker (fake name), Carl keeps bullying me.
I am a 22 year old genderqueer person. She/he/they pronouns. I am mentally disabled. And an artist. I am second shift, and this man is first shift.
It started out when Carl and his girlfriend hung out with me and my partner. His girlfriend is super sweet, she made us really good deserts and we loved them. She seems to not be involved in whatever this is.

Carl pretended to plan a birthday event for me. I guess to make himself look good. Won’t talk to me outside small conversations.

Carl makes fun of me behind my back. Tells others I’m incompetent at my job (my quality came back to be 100%). He then blamed the rumors on my current team lead because of course he did. My poor team lead was trying to figure out why people kept harassing her team. 2 people quit job entirely due to the harassment and I am the last one left.

Carl tells people I am a pathological liar, etc etc. He uses pseudo psychology terms and I heard someone say Carl told them I have bpd. Bruh my doctor said I can’t get tested for that until I turn 26 lol.

Carl made fun of me when I told him I had a stalker at my old work place that happened to be a grocery store. He said that it always seemed to be grocery stores where stalkers reside. Or something like that. He said it in a really condescending tone. And like I’m not stupid, I know when I am being made fun of. Also made fun of me for not know the rules of the lunch breaks. I’m not used to having lunch breaks because I worked retail and food service. When I was in college I sometimes didn’t get to take a lunch break. And in high school I was allowed to split my lunch break so I could use the bathroom frequently due to digestive issues.

I found out he was complaining to people that I never made him anything and I fricking asked him if his ass wanted anything and he said he didn’t.

Asked my partner (Orion Pax) if I was abusing them. Made me ask Orion Pax to message him instead of just messaging them directly. Orion Pax saw that as disrespectful because they are my caretaker at the moment, and if he really thought I was abusing Orion Pax, why wouldn’t he just fricking ask them. Also he never responded to their message that he wanted them to send.
Orion Pax also felt uncomfortable that this man defended them when they were dead naming me, saying that it wasn’t right for them to do that to me. Especially since Carl claimed to be pro trans and even claimed to be my friend. Why would he go against his friend for someone he barely knows. It made them uncomfortable because he barely knows them, like how would Carl know that Orion Pax was a good person just from one conversation.

Carl so convinced of my alleged stupidity, that he thinks I don’t know what he is doing.
Whats funny is that if he apologized and took accountability, I would most definitely forgive his ass because feeling anger and hate makes me sick. Like I get stuck in the bathroom due to stress. I give people chances and I am working on boundaries in therapy.

I’ve heard him make fun of all the disabled women in this office, but he will defend this one man that makes women cry just because that man had a hard life. One of the women he makes fun of went to a conservative school and has bad religious trauma.

Someone warned me that he was convinced I had a crush on his ass. I have autism and seem happy about things and try to be nice. He’s not even my type. I just recognized him from college because I saw him a few times.