Struggling to build the confidence to come out fully

I've been on HRT for almost 2 years now, and all of my friends tell me I pass. I've been working on voice training, and I still have a lot to work on but its to the point where I really have to switch my default voice over I think to see more progress. However, I just don't have the confidence to present fem in public. I put together a really cute outfit, went out to a friends house and afterwards had to ask them to go into the gas station for me because I was scared to. I started volunteering with another friend and I gave my deadname, which upset them because they don't want to have to deadname me and they were also confused as to why I did that.

I can't tell if I pass, the dysphoria says no but everyone around me says yes, and I don't like putting my friends in awkward situations because I haven't fully come out yet. The furthest I've gone is going to the local queer bar out which is always fun, but I need to be able to grab an energy drink without chickening out lol. I'm hoping someone has gotten out of a similar hole and could share how they did it!