My cat likes my boyfriend better

Question

I wanted to get some advice! My boyfriend is wonderful, both me but also just has a natural charm for animals! Any animal I’ve met loves him immediately.

My cat loves me too, I give her food and treats and try to respect her boundaries well, she’s very sweet and does seem to love me- but she loooves my boyfriend. Brushing? He can brush her better! Less fussy with him! Playing? She’ll play with me, but gets much more invested with him! And he plays rougher than me. Holding? She is done being held but more fussy with me, she loves being held by him, even in funny positions and she’s happy and purring! Laying down? She’ll lay on me but takes a particular interest in him if he’s around and lays on him even if he’s asleep!

I really love that I am with someone who is so great with animals, I think it’s such a blessing she loves him so much and he’s so great with animals, but I’m curious does anyone else have someone in their life who their cat seems to prefer? I’ve done all the text book things- give her space and affection as she prefers, feed her treats and food, spend time with her daily, but his knack with animals still beats me! I am less looking for advice on what to do (cause she still is very affectionate and sweet to me especially when it’s just us) and moreso want to know if this is a things, are some people just better with animals than others! Thank you!

Posted Aug 29, 2026, 3:14 AM UTC

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