my mother takes my belongings and makes me feel like i’m throwing a tantrum when i ask for them back

the first time i saved up for something by myself, i decided to buy a pair of bluetooth headphones because my old headphones weren’t working properly. she discovered i had them, and because she’s one of those people who believes that the signals from bluetooth will kill you or some shit, she took them from me without even paying me back
she does this with other things too, sometimes i get food for myself or makeup and she takes it all and says i am only allowed to spend my money on things SHE has approved. she always asks where i get my money from, how i was able to get these things, not realising that i save up and have reserves for when she takes my things so i can buy more.

this summer, she took my collection of wool hats. there was a heatwave here in the uk, and i probably shouldn’t have been wearing them anyway but they make me happy and i feel pretty wearing them so i also wore them on hot days.

she took them all, one by one, and hid them in her room, saying i looked like a homeless crazy person when i was wearing them in the heat. i had one more hat and she saw me with it outside. she convinced me to give it to her by saying she’d put it back in my room for me, and i believed her. but she was lying, she put it away in her room instead and laughed at me when i started crying about it because i really love my hats.

the heatwave is over now, its nearly september and she still won’t give me my hats back. whenever i try to ask her, she makes the situation about herself and how she is the victim. she says i am bullying her and that i am irrational. she is the irrational one, because it isn’t even hot anymore, so i should be able to wear whatever i want. at this point i don’t think its even about the hats anymore, she just wants to control me

i hate it