We finally had sex after months… and he couldn’t finish

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years, and our sex life has been struggling since my pregnancy. He knows I have a high sex drive and that intimacy is something I genuinely need, but most of the time when I initiate, he says he’s tired, doesn’t feel good, or just doesn’t feel like it. After being rejected so many times, I eventually stopped initiating because it was really starting to affect my confidence.

Pregnancy and having a baby changed my body so much. My hormones were all over the place, I gained weight, and honestly, I really didn’t feel attractive anymore. There were times when I genuinely thought I looked ugly. So maybe that’s why I crave that kind of reassurance from him so much. I don’t just want sex. I want to feel admired and wanted by my husband. I want to feel attractive, desirable, and still fuckable.

Earlier, we finally had sex for the first time in a long time. I was actually happy that it happened. But he struggled to stay hard, it took quite a while, and eventually he just gave up and didn’t finish.

I’m not blaming him for that. I know there could be physical, medical, emotional, or simply situational reasons for it, and I don’t want to assume it has anything to do with me or his attraction to me.

What’s weird is that neither of us felt awkward afterward. We just moved on. We watched our movie, ate, laughed, and had fun together like nothing happened.

And I think that’s what made me realize something. We’re both very dismissive when it comes to this part of our relationship. He knows I’m unhappy with our sex life, and I know he has his reasons. But we never actually sit down and talk about what’s happening or what it means for us.

We just move on.

And maybe I’ve gotten so used to being rejected that I don’t even know how to bring it up anymore.