AIO (19F) for being heartbroken over the way my boyfriend (19M) reacted to my mother finding private photos of me?

This is going to be really long and i dont have anyone to talk to really and no one knows about this except the people that were involved
So me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now and most of it has been long distance. It was rough to say the least. We missed each other a lot, so pent up frustration due to that and also our families being disapproving of our relationship. one day he randomly asked me to send a private photo of me after a huge fight that almost resulted in a break up. And i did. I hesitated but this my choice. I was not being coerced or anything but i still felt quite uncomfortable about it because we had established, when our relationship began that we wouldn’t be sending nude photos, and he asked for them at such a shit time and he acted like it was so obvious for him to ask.
Then after that day he asked for videos and i sent them too. I grew more and more comfortable. I was happy but a still ashamed and embarrassed due to my own personal issues or whatever. There had been many many videos.
Fast forward to a family trip, I was own my phone a lot, i kept texting him and my mom grew very suspicious about what im doing (she has caught me a few times before, talking to him and she is very strict and conservative and thinks im too young, also told me that he is the wrong guy)
I had this account which i used to talk to him and i was so tired i passed out and did not log out. I thought she wouldnt check. I dont know why but i just had this feeling in my mind that nothing would happen. I wake up and she is literally going through each and every one of our messages I literally panicked so bad i had never been so scared before in my entire life i cant even exaggerate every word i say fails to compare to what i had felt. I went to the bathroom and i kept thinking what if she finds those videos and i dont know why the fuck i kept thinking she wouldnt that i was fucking protected or something. Long story short she saw each and every video she was going to disown me. She physically hurt me a lot. She wanted to hurt herself. She said the most heinous things a mother could say. Those things still haunt me every single day. I break down every time I think about this. So she called him and told me to speak to him to delete those videos. She said that if she talks to him she is already too angry and what if she says something out of anger and out of spite he misuses my videos. And i wanted to talk to him because i wanted to protect him from my mother’s anger. When i first called him he didnt pick up. The second tome he picked up and i told him that mom found out everything and delete all my files all my pictures of every kind from everywhere and send a screenshot of that to my mothers phone number. Before i could even finish he hung up on my face. I called him again, repeated it, i kept adding useless things because stupidly i just wanted to hear his voice at a time like this and we never got to call each other that much because of my strict parents. and it was really hard for me to even speak. I kept pleading him to say something so my mom is rest assured she doesnt need to lose her mind over this that my videos wont go anywhere. My mom just wanted to protect me. I just wanted him to convince her. Just say something. He was so blunt. His answers were so short and direct. He didnt say anything. I feel so hurt and betrayed by him. Especially because he always said that he will always take my side and always protect me and be my voice he had painted this picture of himself that he is such a man. He had created this idea, this narrative in my head. And i think it is just an idea because he never actually did any of that. I remember when his best friend’s mom basically insulted me (she told his mom to keep your son in check, to keep him safe since he is dating a girl from this xyz place, he is getting played)
I never got to hear what he said in return

I got all my devices taken away for a week which was the longest time we had gone without talking to each other
It was the lowest point in my life and in a bizarre way i was actually happy. I had a soft feeling in my stomach that now ill get to talk to him finally about what is happening and i will feel okay again. Someone cares about me i am worried about and I really fucking needed that, at that time. I was completely stripped of my dignity. It has ruined my nervous system.
I was anticipating it so bad, finally opening his messages
I open them and theres just written ‘damn’ over and over again at different times across the course of 3 days. I explain everything to him. I explain why i was the one on the phone telling him to delete everything. And he says yeah I understand im just in shock and he just said that he is not mad just shaken up and upset but what about me genuinely what the fuck about me i was the one who went through all of that he had no consequences he will never have them and I will always always fucking always carry it on my shoulders to him it is just a thing that happened but it changed the course of my life i feel so betrayed by him why dont i get to be selfish about my problems for just once i have been so considerate about him forever and you know i talked to him about this so many fucking times it has been eating me away but he just acts like it is so fucking obvious that he feels like this that he reacted this way and it is because he is so affected by me and he loves me so much
Every night i cry thinking about this
And at the end he told me, you are moving away tomorrow, do you really want to go like this
And his parents are so stupid they are so stupid they don’t understand
He literally told them what happened and his goddamn mother says he doesnt have any self respect for still dating me after me and my mother talked to him like this
What the actual fuck do you expect my mother to do? To invite him and his whole family over for fucking dinner? Hey hello welcome to our home the guy who my daughter sent her videos to please come