got over my social anxiety…but still suck socially

i’ve done a lot of inner work on myself and i feel decently confident with who i am. i don’t care as much about what people think anymore, so i can be myself without feeling like everyones watching me anymore. i have a few friends and i actually believe they like me which is new. but i don’t have social skills. i can be myself around my friends because they know me and we get along well, but with anyone else i feel like getting comfortable with myself has actually made it worse. i misunderstand what people mean because i’ll process it slowly, and if i respond quickly it’ll be dumb or won’t fit the conversation. to have a good response i have to think for a second which ruins the flow and they’ll seem kinda thrown off. and honestly now that im over the social anxiety, putting all that mental effort into some bullshit conversation just feels pointless. i probably come across as a dick or like i dont care. but i genuinely just don’t feel like i have the ability to talk and process like they do. hopefully things get better with time as i learn to understand people better, but right now i just feel dumb. i think i have autism so maybe this is just gonna be my life and i need to get used to it.