BIG pet peeve as an aroace

I am so tired of allosexua/alloromantics saying “aroace people can still date!!”

Half the time, it genuinely feels like they are trying to say they know more about aroace people than actual aroace people do. While yes, I do understand that people who are aroace CAN date. But I am not one of those people and there are barely any aroace characters that are absolutely-no-romance-and-or-sex like me :(

It just feels a bit demeaning to me sometimes. My whole life I’ve been told I just haven’t found the right person yet or that I’m not being logical. So to hear people still saying aroace people can still date to a character that is pretty clearly boldstripe, it just ends up feeling like allosexuals are still not ready to accept there are people who truly feel no romantic or sexual love.

Maybe I’m just being dramatic, but I already hate being aroace because it makes me feel like I’m missing out on a key part of life. I don’t need more people indirectly/accidentally denying the existence of aroaces that don’t feel any romance or sexual attraction.