AITAH for wanting to leave my bf after being forced to live in a hotel with my kids and him choosing not to stay with us?

Sorry this may be long but I’ve been holding this in too long and truly need advice. I’m a 39F dating 45M for almost 11 months now and we’ve been living together for the last 6 months. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage that ended a couple years ago. We met on a dating website and initially we weren’t exclusive right away and I continued to keep my options open since I wasn’t committed to anyone. He developed feelings for me right away and I was hesitant on how I was feeling and didn’t cut off other people that I was talking to yet. Eventually when I realized I wanted him which wasn’t too long I cut everyone else off. One day he came over and went through my phone and saw the previous messages I had even the ones in recently deleted and went ballistic. Took a lot of fighting and talking but we were able to move on even though he brings it up when we fight.
I was living in my apartment with my kids before he came along but my landlord lived above me and was the landlord from hell. Really intrusive and controlling and nosy. Eventually it came to a head when one day I asked them about my outside patio furniture that was supposed to be in the backyard and they had it locked up with my kids bikes and other stuff in their shed without my knowledge or permission. When I asked for it they tried to gaslight me and tell me that it was there and that I wasn’t looking well enough. Fifteen minutes later I saw them taking my stuff from their locked shed and they posted everything in front of my door and told me that I wasn’t allowed in the backyard for any reason and that I should’ve trusted them. Few days later I received a notice to move out.
I didn’t have enough time to find another place right away and have been forced to stay in a hotel. I work full time and I don’t get welfare or any assistance. Family members told me to just go to a shelter and suck it up but I don’t want to traumatize my kids with that. But living in this hotel for the last couple weeks are killing me and draining me and my bf isn’t staying with us either. He says that’s not his style but there’s no effort to move us into something better. I found a small apartment that I can move into within the next 2 weeks and I gave my security deposit already. But with doing that I don’t have anything for my kids for school. I wasn’t able to get them uniforms and school supplies. Nothing. We are barely making it through each day. I’m sitting here not eating just so everyone else can eat. I’m sitting here crying feeling like the worst mom in the world. Mind you I work very hard and I commute over 2 hrs each way to go to work and come back in addition to taking care of a disabled parent.
Things aren’t great between my bf s as bf I because he takes his frustrations out on me. It’s almost like walking on eggshells and everything I do is wrong but then there are moments where I’m the best thing ever. It’s whiplash. He says all the time he wants to walk away and leave me where I am for me to figure it out but then takes it back. Idk what he does when I’m not around and I’m just beyond frustrated. I’m frustrated myself with the situation because I’ve always been stable and right now I’m going through a rough patch but I’m beyond over it. I love him and he talks about wanting a future with me but I’m feeling used and abused and disrespected. He’s always telling me everything single thing wrong with me but doesn’t want to hear it about him. Even now he told me he doesn’t want to continue things since we haven’t been able to do anything together. How could we with the situation as it is? But then will call me tomorrow as if nothing ever happened. But I just responded with okay.
He values other people’s feelings and opinions sometimes over me. I can say something but he dismisses me but then will say another person said something similar and all of a sudden it’s gospel. He doesn’t appreciate the things that I do but expects credit for everything he does. He will promise things that haven’t come to fruition and I’m starting to really be over it. And anytime I try to bring up things that he promised that hasn’t come true then he gets defensive and angry like I don’t have reason to ask but I can’t do that. He’s very hypocritical in his actions. He’s insecure of my ex husband but I’m trying to have a healthy co-parenting relationship but he will speak to his baby mama about everything and about us but I’m not supposed to feel any sort of way. So AITAH for wanting to walk away from him completely after he left us in the hotel without him?