My (34M) girlfriend (30F) is always negative and it's draining my life force

i (34m) have been dating my girlfriend (30f) for 5 months now.. and the one thing that bothers me beyond belief and makes me question whether or not i want to continue is how negative she is about life and how little she wants to do to try to fix her problems.

my life is not perfect. there are many things that bother me every day of my life but i do what i can to manage those things. i grew up struggling badly with self image and confidence issues, so i made the decision to prioritize exercising daily so that i like the person that i see in the mirror. i watched my parents live paycheck to paycheck struggling to keep jobs, so i made sure i went to school and secured myself a stable job that i can work and improve at to make sure i don't struggle the way they did.

and are things perfect for me today? no, absolutely not. there are countless things in my life that still bother me, but i just deal with them and work through them and try not to make other people wear my burdens.. but this is just not something she does. she is an absolute black hole of negativity. every day is a new complaint about how awful her life is, with zero attempts to make any improvements anywhere. anything i suggest is met with resistance because i have "no idea" what she goes through daily.

and i understand that people struggle with things and as a significant other, you are supposed to be there to support your partner - that part i understand. what i'm struggling with is.. i don't feel like what i have is a relationship. i feel like i have just.. picked up a responsibility. if she was more open to the help i try to give her when we talk about things that bother her in her life.. i'd be so into going through that with her.. but i'm just losing interest in the relationship because of her stubborn resistance to help. i feel like nothing will ever change and that she only wants to vent to me about how terrible her life is all the time.

for example, she complains all the time about how tired she is, how much her head hurts, how much her stomach hurts.. so i suggested helping to clean up with is an absolutely awful diet, and invited her to come to the gym with me to get some exercise a few times a week. i tried explaining to her that did wonders for my energy levels and cleaned up a lot of my self image issues i grew up with.

her response? that she doesn't have enough time for it, that she's too lazy to go food shopping instead of eating small fries from wendys every day on her lunch break, that i'm lucky i get to work from home so i have time to go workout any time i want, that exercise and diet change won't make a difference in how she feels about herself. one time i asked her to come to the gym with me, and it turned into her crashing out because she took it as me calling her fat and that she needs to lose weight..

and she applies this logic everywhere in her life. she won't go to the doctor for her health problems because it's "pointless," she won't try therapy or medication for her insecurities and self image issues because it's a "waste of time." every suggestion i've ever made to her is either pointless or a waste of time.. and then the next day it's complaining about how tired she is and how she doesn't want to go to work.

i don't feel like what i have with her is a deep connection, and i feel bad because she is a sweet girl, she just has some issues that she needs to deal with and she just won't deal with them. it's what's preventing me from falling in love with her as much as that hurts me to say.. i'm just trying to be as honest as possible writing this out. i want things to work out between us, but i just have a really bad feeling that i've just been trying to ignore what is a glaring problem for far too long now.. all because i'm forcing the relationship to work out.

the other thing that bothers me is.. she's just not interested in anything. i have my hobbies like working out, playing basketball with my friends, gaming with my friends.. she has zero hobbies. she either lays in bed after work and watches netflix or scrolls tiktok. there is absolutely nothing she gets excited about in life or shows interest in.. which again i feel like bleeds into the depth of our relationship. there's nowhere that we connect, and there's nothing we can talk about on a deep level. we're kind of just.. a girl and a guy who found each other attractive enough to try a relationship.. and it turns out that's not a very good foundation.

i try like hell to look at the bright side of things, to still try to brighten up her day when she's having a bad day, to keep positive thinking things will improve.. but man i just find myself wondering every day if the compatibility between her and i is even there. i wonder if i've just been forcing it this entire time to try to prove to everyone around me that i can make a relationship work.. i don't know. just hoping someone here has been through a similar situation ending with a positive result is all.

TLDR: girlfriend is negative about everything in life, doesn't try new things to make things better, super draining to be around, looking for people with similar experience in this area who have a positive story ending.