got broken up with for being a good girlfriend?

(English isn’t my first language, kindly bare with me)

I (19F) got dumped by my now ex-boyfriend (18M), we first met December 2025, through mutual friends and immediately hit it off as friends. We got really close when he stayed in my city over the holidays, he was always invited when me and his cousins would hang out.

I had fun with him around, whenever he visits my city, which lessened when school started. When he’s not visiting, he would text me everyday because we shared the same interests, and I eventually grew fond of his enthusiasm. He then told me he liked only after a month of being friends, which I kindly turned down, which he was okay with. Made it clear from the start that I only wanted to be friends because of the distance (10 hour drive), and because I don’t date younger, I’m in my 2nd year of college and they’re graduating high school when we met. He still was persistent and treated me with the same casualness and care as before.

That went on for 3 more months, he would always initiate conversation about anything just for the sake of talking to me, he likes sending me updates on what he’s doing, and is invested in what I’m up to. He started calling me frequently to play games, and sometimes just call while doing work. He’s just overall really consistent and always made time for me, doesn’t make me overthink because he tells me everything, I mean EVERYTHING.

April of this year, I did eventually say yes when he asked if we could try dating, even with the distance, and I didn’t mind me being older as much as before, we still have similar levels of maturity/immaturity.

We had multiple disagreements here and there, mostly him struggling with the distance, which was hypocritical of him when I told him from the start it wasn’t a good idea, but we made it work, whenever he would spiral I would always be able to ground him.

Last week, he went to a gap year program where they can only use tech on Sundays, we’ve talked about it a lot over the summer if he’ll be okay with the distance, which he said he would be. He wasn’t, only after a week he gave up, he couldn’t do it anymore, and I’m just annoyed. I felt like I got strung along.

He also mentioned him being overly reliant on me, and he wanted to solve his problems on his own. Through out the past months we’ve been talking, he’s been through a lot, includes parent’s divorce, death of a friend, and more I can’t name. and I’ve been there through it all, I was always able to make him feel better or “solve his problems for him”, his words not mine. I was also able to help him get over an addiction, proud of him btw. And now he used that as a reason to break up with me.

What’d I do wrong? I really miss him. Would he come back? Should I even take him back?