I know in this subreddit a lot of people who have tamil people moved abroad exist, question for them….

Random thought, but I feel like a lot of us who move abroad as adults probably go through this. Namba mostly abroad move agardhu due to our personal  
Situations and namba life la most of our life before moving would have been in School, college, neighbourhood friends, cousins, random people we met over the years etc. And without even consciously trying, we somehow built really deep friendships.

Like after knowing someone for years, you just know who your people are. There’s a comfort level that is very hard to explain.

Then you move abroad for studies or work and suddenly inga u are all alone and you get a need that you have to build your social life from zero.

So inga vandhum we start looking for other Indians especially tamil crowd who speak the same language, have similar background, same food culture, to carry andha same vibe. But I realised sharing a language or being from the same place doesn’t automatically mean you’ll connect deeply.

You can have people to hang out with, go for dinner, celebrate festivals with, talk regularly etc. and still feel like… these are not really my people nu …

May be avangalukum adhe thonalaam, but they are able to act for survival or avangalume idhe go through pannalaam.

Maybe it’s because childhood friendships had years and years to develop organically, while adult friendships are built when everyone already has their own priorities, careers, relationships, boundaries and baggage.

And sometimes I feel people abroad just adjust to whatever group they find because being part of some group feels better than being alone. Konjam  people get lucky and find amazing friends after moving, but I’m curious about others here who moved abroad.

Idhe en kekuren na, we invest a lot of time to introduce ourselves, make them comfortable, make ourselves adjustable etc etc.. idhellame waste aana we get frustrated, we blame ourselves for wasting our time and we feel all alone again…

Did you actually find close friends abroad who feel like your childhood/college friends back home?  
Or ?

Neengale sollunga. 

Cheers:)

Does moving abroad as an adult make genuine friendship way harder or is it just me?