Advice for continuing the fantasy and moving to reality.

My wife and I are exploring this lifestyle as a fantasy right now. We talk about it, watch videos, use named toys, and are having a great time. We both agree that we would explore like this, with the understanding that we both like the idea that it may become reality at some point.

We both feel like we are getting closer to making it a reality, but neither of us has been in the dating game in 10+ years and really don’t know how we would find another guy.

Are there other things we could explore in fantasy to help progress to our goal?

Any advice on finding a good partner? We both like the idea of this happening while out of town for privacy reasons and not with anyone we currently know.

Last: any common “mistakes” people see being made to avoid? I feel like we are moving at a good pace, no rushing anything. Moving into reality is likely at a minimum several months away.