How did you leave/say goodbye?

Hi, everyone. I’ve been a member of an Apostolic Oneness/Holiness church for the past four years. My husband and I met there and we were both baptized there. We have both grown in our longing for more grace and less legalism, more depth of studying the Bible and less preaching of avoiding hell (literally every sermon). My tipping point recently has been with dealing with the exceedingly loud music as I’ve had to wear earplugs for years now just to make it through the super loud Christian Rock + Pentecostal style services with the volume up to 120 decibels. My ears are still ringing from this last Sunday’s service. I am very active in serving in the church in more than one ministry, yet am feeling like now may be my moment to just let go, as it’s affecting my health at this point. My question for you all is, did you say goodbye in front of the congregation? Or did you just one day stop going and never look back? Did you privately inform your pastor? Not sure what the best way is to go about it. It’s been our community for the past four years. It seems cold to just not return, yet I am appalled at the lack of consideration for people’s health (on top of all the legalism of course). I had asked several times over the years if they could adjust the sound levels and nothing has ever been done about it. I am well aware that we will be considered no longer part of the club if/when we leave.